The practice of eliminating repetitive “sorry” statements might not seem so harmful, or important, but hear me out.Â
Research finds that women have a lower offense threshold, meaning that they tend to apologize significantly more than men.
This matters a lot because when women don’t say sorry at all or as much, they are perceived as too cold, not nice, b*!chy, or bossy.Â
Always saying sorry is also used as a way to deflect tension and awkwardness and it is also used as a way to show uncertainty or self-doubt.Â
Most importantly, when people overuse the word “sorry”, really apologies come off as insincere or meaningless.Â
Eliminating this habit will help you become more assertive, develop a strong voice and increase your confidence. On a bigger scale, you will help change society’s view of what assertive women are like, and believe it or not, this helps us get closer to being treated equally.
So, here are some examples of how people overuse “sorry” and how you can reword the statem...
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I was speaking to a parent this past week who was feeling awful for not having listened to her child.Â
You see, her child had been bullied for a while. She thought that her incidents were not that bad. Then, months later she found out that her child was experiencing extreme symptoms from her bullying experiences.Â
Her child was having panic attacks, couldn’t sleep, and got physically sick often. Her child kept asking to stay home and then one day, her child just refused to go to school. Â
After long talks and some therapy sessions, this mom found out that the bullying experiences had been very consistent over the course of a year. Furthermore, she found out that teachers had been part of the bullying as well.Â
Sadly, this happens. That’s why it’s important for parents to ask as many questions as possible to find out what kids are really saying.Â
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It’s been a heavy week, hasn’t it?Â
There were several shootings this week, but the one that’s been highlighted the most is the one in Uvalde, Texas.
I have to be honest. I have been avoiding reading or listening to a lot of it because my emotional bandwidth just can’t take it right now. That doesn’t mean I don’t care. I certainly do. But, I have to limit my consumption of things that I am aware will be too much to handle at the time.
One thing I've had to do regardless of how I feel is to check in with my kids to find out how they're doing. I know that the answers might not be ideal. I don’t expect them to feel like the world is an amazing place and that they will feel 100 percent safe and secure.Â
But, I want to make sure that they know I am there for them and that they can ask me any questions.Â
That’s the job of a parent, right? No matter what is going on, we never stop being there for our kids.Â
So, I want to remind you to please talk with your children about what they’re fe...
I try to be as involved as possible in my children’s lives. I do not accept short answers when I ask them how their day has gone. I try to have conversations with them to know what’s really been going on in their lives, but it's not always so easy.Â
They are in their teens and sometimes, sharing about their lives is NOT something they're interested in doing.
Try A Different Approach
Since kids can be really stubborn about opening up, I've had to learn when to leave them alone and when to get them to engage without them realizing that they're doing it.Â
It has to be subtle and all about them!
For example, this morning, my younger child was very cranky and didn't want to talk. As I drove her to school, I asked her if she knew what was making her feel cranky. Of course, she gave me the usual teen answer, "I dunno".Â
Since I didn't want her to go off to school feeling down, I started telling her that I imagine that if her favorite stuffed animal were to come alive as all the toys did...
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I recently spoke with a woman who had just moved to the U.S. She’d visited here for years and even attended university stateside—but she was shocked to learn how much power parents can have in the public school system… and how often we don’t use it.
She said, “I’m surprised parents are allowed to ask the schools so many questions. And even more surprised that they don’t.”
That moment reminded me: the issue isn’t that parents don’t care—it’s that they often don’t know what they’re allowed to ask.
Let’s change that.
Below are the questions and action steps every parent—whether your child is in a public or private school—should know. You can take control of your child’s education. Here’s how.
You have the right to ask for meeting notes from:
Some parents do what they think will help stop it, not realizing their actions can make the situation worse.Â
That’s what happened to a mother who decided to directly speak to her child’s bully.Â
Perhaps she wasn’t aware that boarding a school bus was considered trespassing. That’s reason enough for her to be arrested or fined (depending on the state laws).Â
But this mother went further. She began verbally assaulting the 11-year old child and she ended up fighting the child (physical assault).Â
The whole thing was caught on video. But, let’s assume the child hit her first. As an adult, what are the chances that the justice system will side with the mother?Â
You see, I have read many news articles about similar situations because, in my opinion, parents are not well aware of efficient ways to manage bullying situations involving their children and schools are not taking bullying complaints seriously enough.Â
This is why bullying awareness and prevention education needs to be offer...
When I tell people that I’m a parenting coach who specializes in anti-bullying education, people ask “what does an anti-bullying coach do??” and “Oh, that’s a thing now?”
Yes, LOL! It’s a thing. I’ve been doing this work for five years so far and I LOVE IT!Â
I decided to help parents in their journey because parenting hasn’t been so easy for me and I know that I’m not alone. Like many parents, I have had moments when I needed to ask questions but I felt that I couldn’t go to a friend or family member for an honest, unbiased answer or criticism of my kids or my husband and I’s parenting skills.Â
There’s still a lot of stigma in society about parents reaching out for help. It doesn’t make sense to me because we get help for everything else in life, so, why would parenting be any different?Â
There are also lots of advantages to going to a parenting coach.Â
Coaches are people who give feedback without judgment, they don’t have personal knowledge of your life that can get in the way of...
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