Since many schools throughout the nation are returning to online learning, more kids will be tempted to navigate to their social media sites.
And, let's be honest, they're already spending more time than any parent would want online, right?
So, let’s talk about SOCIAL MEDIA ETIQUETTE.
If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ve already read or heard me talk about delaying the use of smart devices for kids until you can no longer hold back.
You’ve also read or heard me talk about things to consider agreeing on with your kids when YOU DO give them access to devices and the internet.
Now, let’s review a few details about online etiquette:
1 Never share or repost information that you have not confirmed. You can avoid arguments with friends and family if you follow this suggestion.
2 NEVER share or post mean comments, images, or videos about someone (even if they are notorious for being a bully)
A lady recently asked me if I could help her find a lawyer to help her niece with a bullying situation at school.
You see, her niece was physically bullied and has been at home this week due to fear of lack of safety because the school hasn’t responded to the bullying report at all!
So, I don’t blame this high school child. If a school has allowed over two weeks to pass and not one person has responded, then I too wouldn’t go back to school without knowing they would do their best to keep me safe.
Did you know that legally, the number one mission for all schools in the U.S. is to keep kids safe while on campus?
Providing academic education comes second.
So, back to this lady’s question. She wanted to know what type of lawyer should she look for and how would she be able to find a good one?
Fortunately, I’ve done my homework regarding this question and had the privilege of interviewing some lawyers who have defended children...
Ever watch the movie "Mean Girls?" The main bully, Regina was always referred to as the popular girl at school, right?
Do you recall who and how her friends behaved around her versus when they were alone with the people they tormented?
Well, they are a really good example of different types of bullies. You see, while you might think that it doesn't matter what type of bullying behaviors they exhibit, they actually do matter.
Because how they bully people can tell you a lot about how to approach their attacks and how to help them stop hurting you or others.
So, let's get started, shall we?
The first type of bully happens to be "the popular kid" (the popular bully).
Typically, the popular bully has created his/her image due to the aggressive, controlling, and manipulative methods to be perceived as dominant. Sometimes they justify their actions because they claim to be the no B.S. type of person.
Peers tolerate this type of behavior because they have the "if you can't beat...
Would you put your child in a bubble if you could? It’s something all parents have thought of at one point or another, right?
Honestly, I’m not one of those parents who would put their kids in a bubble. I understand the need for them to go through some life lessons, but to a certain point.
One of the things that I have focused on is showing kids empathy because as we have all witnesses, people without empathy are more likely to intentionally hurt others.
Then, there’s the importance of learning to deal with one’s own emotions. When children do not know how to release what they’re feeling, eventually those emotions come out in certain ways.
Sometimes pain and frustration come out in the form of anger. When this happens to children, even they don’t often understand why they’re feeling.
At times, their emotions are taken out in the form of anger, mischief, or bullying. No parent wants to find out that their kid is the one...
I recently overheard a conversation going on right next to me between two people. They were discussing the outrageous amount of money that rich people throw away every day on the non-sense type of stuff.
One of them said that if they could only have a few million dollars, all of their problems would go away.
That comment really caught my attention. It made me wonder how many kids believe that money solves all problems or that money can create complete happiness.
I thought about that because that conversation reminded me that I was a kid who believed that money solved all problems. I believed it because that's what I would hear adults say.
But when I became a teenager I learned that those beliefs were merely myths. Overhearing that conversation and thinking back to what I used to believe about people with monetary wealth made me reflect on what “rich” people’s hardships might look like.
I thought a bit about what it must feel like to wake up each day knowing...
I’m embarrassed to share that I didn’t really know what Dr. Martin Luther King (MLK) Jr. Day was about until I was an adult. Honestly, I’m not sure why.
Maybe it is because my head was absent from school most of the years growing up. I was more worried about the challenges going on at home and learning the English language than giving 100 percent of my attention to what teachers were saying.
I was in survival mode.
But when I did find out the true meaning of this day, I began implementing its meaning not just on MLK Day, but year-round.
What I mean by that is this day is a federal holiday to honor Dr. King for his dedication to fighting for the civil rights of minorities. Since he was a man who dedicated himself to uplifting communities, people honor him by doing good deeds and by taking action to help improve societies.
Millions of people volunteer in their communities in his honor. They also donate to charities and hold events to...
Have you ever had a huge aha moment as an adult about something that you went through as a kid? You might have thought it was nothing, but as you reflected on it, you realized it was the cause of something a lot bigger?
This happened to me a few years ago. My family has always made fun of me for having been that teen that slept ALL THE TIME!
THE BACK STORY
My father had finally left us right after I had turned 14. It was a wonderful feeling to no longer wake up to him physically abusing my mother or walking into the house from school to see she’d been beaten again.
Everyone recalls one particular summer when I was 15-years-old when we lived in government housing after my father left.
My mom had to make ends meet and she had gotten so lucky to have received a government home for us because the waiting list was very long.
Since she had six kids, they made her case a special priority. I will never forget that change in our lives. She would stay in her...
Former Foster Youth Shares Personal Journey From Pain to Power
Imagine being so scared to go to a school that you hide in the library so that you can be invisible.
Imagine being called names such as “blackie” and “ugly”, while walking to class by a group of your peers. Imagine what your life would be like if you are jumped, hit, chased and chronically teased at school, and no one comes to your rescue
Sadly, thousands of children in the Inland Empire, especially foster youth, are afraid to go to school because they are violently and verbally attacked.
I was one of those children. A quiet, shy kid who felt unloved and unworthy due to the trauma I faced, I was often the target of unwanted harassment. I wore the same clothes or hand-me-downs that were either too big or too small for me.
My hair was unkept because no one invested money to care for my hair. My clothing, dark skin, and coarse hair made me a target for daily bullying for a decade that...
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by Rosalia Rivera
Due to the #METOO movement, the word ‘CONSENT’ was brought to the forefront of cultural awareness. It’s unfortunate that it has taken a movement this big to create more awareness of what consent is and why it’s so important. Never the less, #METOO has helped to spread the concept of consent and make it mainstream.
Unfortunately, people think that it’s solely related to sexual consent. But in fact, it’s about our rights as free individuals to CHOOSE to have ANYTHING done with or to us.
Here’s the problem. We teach kids about consent only in the pre-teen or teen years, and some parents don’t teach it at all because they don’t know how to approach it.
Parents only relate consent to sexual consent and it makes them anxious to approach the topic. So their children are left unequipped to set or enforce boundaries or on the flip side, unsure how to ask for consent or read non-verbal cues.
While we complain about our first world problems, others look at us in the developed world wishing to have our problems.
I’ve been thinking a lot about a story I recently read. It was about the experience that Soad, a grandmother from Iraq and her son, Haider had when they were brought to Georgia so that her granddaughter, Noor could get medical attention. You can read more about baby Noor here.
While Soad and Haider were in the U.S. they saw many things in a very different light than most of us Americans do.
For example, Soad was astonished at how clean our produce is in American supermarkets. She was amazed that misters would spray the produce every so often to keep it fresh. And she noticed that produce was not swarmed with flies the way it was in markets in her country.
Soad and her son viewed the American medical system that we so much complain about in a whole different way:
“Their idea of medical care was limited to an Abu...
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