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Are you one of those people who feel awkward when someone gives you a compliment?
If you are, you’re not alone. A lot of people grow up being told to be humble and they translate that to mean that they should not accept compliments or that they should shut them down.
The other reasons can also be low self-esteem, and feeling uncomfortable with big expectations from you. So, a compliment might feel as if you have to set a higher bar for yourself and that might seem scary and like a lot of pressure.
Lastly, the reason you might not feel good about being complimented might be that you might not believe the compliments people give you because you don’t see them within yourself.
So, I point out these possibilities because sometimes we don’t look within because we don’t realize what we are doing to ourselves and we don’t realize how we are reacting. However, other people do notice it.
This is hard work to do. But it must be done if you want your kids to not role model that behavior.
So, the way you change this is with PRACTICE and awareness. You and your family members can work on accepting compliments in easy ways. It sounds like a very insignificant thing, but it impacts confidence and how you respond to people.
Here are some examples of compliments and what to say:
✅ I love your outfit! You look beautiful.
❤️ Thank you for that compliment.
✅ OMG, you did so well on that art project!
❤️ Thank you! I worked very hard on that project.
✅ You sing so beautifully!
❤️ Thank you, I love to sing.
✅ You are so smart.
❤️ I appreciate your noticing.
You see, accepting compliments is easy and you don’t have to say much. Practice these and enjoy the compliments!
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